Everyone has a flow!

Ok... so it's been a little bit since I've found myself with reason to whine. Sad I only write when I wanna whine eh?? So I decided that this time I would share a bit of wisdom. ( bah hahahhahahahhahaha) ok pick your self up off the floor and finish reading.
Everyone has a flow. Everyone has a frequency that they function best at. For some it has to do with routine. Some can't break that routine or it all comes crashing down. For some they need reassurance. Some need to feel they are really being heard. Some need positive affirmations. Whatever it is, they are more productive, happier and well balanced when those in their lives mesh with the flow. Mom's tend to teach their flow to their children, but I personally believe we are born with our flow. And so mothers can try to teach the "correct" flow, but everyone will eventually tune into their own flow and make it work just for them.
The point to all of this is simple. If you really want to have lasting relationships, good friendships and minimize contention, you have to figure out what their flow is. Figure out how they work best and adapt to it when dealing with that person. For example I have a dear friend who has a routine flow. From certain times each day she helps her children and the rest of the world can wait. She greatly appreciates those who don't call or show up at her home during these times. She also appreciates not being chastised for ignoring those who do call or come by at that particular time. Know that at her home 4-6pm is kiddo time and nothing else and you will succeed with this friend. I have another who needs to know what she has done is appreciated. She will be the most generous person in the world with you, with any talent, time, or money she has as long as she feels it's appreciated. But the first time you seem ungrateful, you my friend have cut yourself off from the well. See, so now you just have to figure out what the flow is and how to go with it!!
Good luck!
~Annie
p.s. sometimes I'm not even sure what my flow is....so this can be kinda tricky :)